streams in the desert

On August 21, 2011…33 years, 10 months and 47 days from when we first met…Judy and I were legally wed in the presence of our congregation, friends and family…in the little church at the edge of the city. We are pretty sure this marriage will last…

Last spring, knowing that civil unions would become law in our state on June 1, our little church voted unanimously to support and officiate at same gender weddings and unions. Despite denominational hedging, this decision was a natural progression for us—a long-standing, open and affirming church body. Nevertheless, Judy and I, along with several others, were catapulted into a level of happiness we hadn’t known was missing. Initially we were only planning on applying for legal status, but upon learning that the license required a ceremony for completion, we knew a church setting was what we wanted. (See previous posting, getting from here to there for an account of this.) We began talking with our pastor. Slowly, ideas dreamed themselves into plans and the plans shaped themselves into a celebration of life, bigger than anything we’d known previously.  We walked, talked, skipped, ran, stumbled and sometimes flew through the weeks leading up to the ceremony and day of celebration.

The ceremony, lovingly performed by our pastor, Graceful Spirit, was woven seamlessly into the morning worship hour. It was an incredible time…a very thin space indeed…full of music, dance, *spoken word, prayer, Communion and friends…lots of friends from near and far. It was a celebration for everyone, but especially for our congregation, without whose vision and courage, it could not have happened. We welcomed them into our lives in a way that is different and distinct from baptism or church membership. We are asked if we feel different now. Yes, we do! We are accepted and acceptable, no longer just individually, but together, as the journeying twosome we have always been. Affirmation, Acceptance, Appreciation. These are the A’s that all of us need to live healthy and productive lives as members of the human family.

The promises God made to us way back at the beginning have been kept…streams did indeed flow in the desert…we are thankful. With the blessing of visionary and courageous leadership, we are moving forward. Praise God!

*You can read the pastor, Megan Ramer’s Homily and the antiphonal Reading from the ceremony on the church website – Chicago Community Mennonite Church • Recent Sermons: Homily (21 August 2011).

  Naomi is smiling. Judy was in shock, but she got over it. And now we are living happily ever after.  🙂

9 Responses to “streams in the desert”

  1. 3 Meg
    August 30, 2011 at 10:08 pm

    You are my favorite Naomi and Judy team. As Hunter so often says, I love you…”to infinity and beyond!” So glad I could be a witness to your big day.

    • 4 Naomi
      August 31, 2011 at 6:31 am

      That Hunter what a guy…at 4 years old! We are glad you could be with us. It was an amazing day…to infinity and beyond!

  2. August 31, 2011 at 7:06 am

    Congratulations Naomi and Judy. I wish you continued happiness in your journey together. Thanks for telling of your marriage in the blog.

  3. 6 Marcia
    August 31, 2011 at 9:51 pm

    I can see this wears well on you both! You look younger than ever!! Love you and miss you.

  4. 8 Laurie
    August 31, 2011 at 10:51 pm

    Aunt Naomi and Judy! Congratulations again and again. You both looked lovely and truly beaming! What a special day for you both. I was thinking of you that morning and sending my love. I love all the wonderful sunshine filling the room in the posted picture of the congregation. And may I add to my mom’s previous post mentioning Hunter’s quote. Here’s his latest quote for you two to strive for in your many years ahead – “I love you to the end of the universe… and back…now that is a lot!” Blessings. Hope to see you soon to give you a hug.

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